Nov
26

Pain Vs. Regret – A Simple Mindset Shift That Changed My Life

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G’day Shredders,

Today I’d like to share with you a simple mindset shift that helped me transform my life on Mission 1.

The picture slide to the right is from July 22, 2003 (the lowest point of my life) and March 24, 2007.

There is a lot of pain (and joy) in this picture slide. The pain I speak of is not just emotional, there was also a lot of physical pain I went through to transform my body in that time period.

July 2003: Pain Dictated My Life

When I cast my mind back to July 2003 I remember quite clearly how much pain I felt daily due to the shape I was in and the fact that my life was going nowhere. I still had a glimmer of faith that I could turn my life around but I knew the road was going to be long and hard.

At that time pain did dictate my life. Every day I would wake up feeling miserable and frustrated with myself that another day had passed and I still hadn’t taken action on my long-held dreams of re-transforming my physique (and life).

Then, every 6 months or so an event would trigger me into action. I would get up the next day and decide to take action (this is why I have so many “before pictures”) and go “hell for leather” in the gym for a few weeks or months.

I would always make some progress during those “failed challenges” but inevitably the pain I felt in the gym (and in my mind) was not commensurate with the results I was getting.

My Life-Changing Mindset Shift

I continued this cycle for over 3 years until one fateful day (November 8, 2006) when I decided to make a simple mindset shift. Instead of letting pain dictate my life I decided to channel the pain I felt into my training and nutritional discipline.

In fact, I still remember the first set of my first weight training session on Mission 1. I remember staring into the mirror for one whole minute before I started on the first set of Barbell Bent Over Rows.

I told myself in no uncertain terms:

You are here for a reason, it is time for you to regain control of your life starting RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW. You are going to channel all the pain you have felt for the last 3 years into this rep, set and workout session. The truth is, you deserve this pain. It has to be this way because you and you alone are responsible for where you are right now, and only you can turn it around.

After my little pep talk I got straight into my workout. For the first time in a very long time I remained laser-focused during a whole session. I kept the pain front and center in my mind and channeled this pain into every single rep and set of that workout.

As my body started transforming in front of my very eyes (evidenced by the daily pictures I took) I slowly began to redefine the meaning of pain in my mind. As I progressed throughout Mission 1 the pain I came to realize that the pain I felt for that one hour in the gym was nothing compared to the emotional pain I had endured for the previous 3 years.

The Choice Is Yours…

I now realize that in life pain is inevitable. The only choice you have is whether to meet pain on your terms or whether you let the pain you feel dictate your life.

Your body is a perfect metaphor for this idea, that being you can either choose 1 hour of pain every day and live in the body of your dreams OR you can choose do nothing (and feel no physical pain) and live in the body of your nightmares.

The bottom line is this:

Is it more “painful” to take the daily actions required (physical, financial, spiritual, academic) to live the life of your dreams OR is it less painful not to take the daily actions required and live a life of regret?

I know which pain I would rather feel. I’ll take my pain in small doses every day and live the life of my dreams because that pain is temporary while regret is forever.

How about you?

Cheers,
Adam Waters, NESTA-CPT

P.S. Today was another rainy day in paradise! Fair dinkum, I haven’t seen this much rain in donkey’s years!

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  • http://journeyto185.com Mark

    Fantastic words here, Adam. I know exactly where you’re coming from – the scenario you described of your words to yourself in front of the mirror is similar to what I have with myself now, and which I need to have again (ie, a strict talk with myself!).

    Spot on as always.

  • Celina

    Hi Adam, I was kind of hypnotized while reading your today’s post. You’re so right; when I’m taking daily actions (people call them sacrifices) I feel so complete, so good, than I don’t even see them as painful. The last time I fell of the wagon, you won’t believe me but I had a sick stomach for a week and had sever headaches for 10 days or so… I really really feel pain when I’m not eating healthy or doing at least some kind of excercise.. perhaps it’s a psychological thing, but I feel like a complete different person… defenetly, the worst pain you can feel from yourself is regret… thank you for the “awaking effect” (I don’t know how to express this!!) of your post…

  • http://unstoppablemomentum.blogspot.com/ Rafael

    Fantastic post!!!!!!
    “Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.”
    L.Armstrong

  • http://ronfitlog.wordpress.com Ron

    What a wonderful way of looking at things, Adam! Trading deep emotional/psychological pain over “little” planned physical pain every day is a fair bargain in my book.

  • Anonymous

    Such a great blog today and one that really gets to me. I´m sure that I won´t forget what you said about having pain FOREVER . Thanx for your help. Fair Dinkum.
    Lynda

  • http://www.qfs-blog.blogspot.com suzette

    I, too, know of what you are talking about. It also holds true for other areas of life! What we are telling ourselves daily is of major importance!
    Great post, Adam!

  • Thomas

    Adam, there is a famous saying which relates to what you talk about in this post – “There are two types of pain – the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”

    Inspiration blog Adam!

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Hi Mark, yeah those moments when we talk to ourselves in the mirror before a workout are extremely powerful I find. Like staring yourself down!

  • mikegroom

    I think a lot of us can relate to what you are expressing here!

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Thank you Celina for your great comment. I agree with you, when I’m not working out and not making those daily sacrifices it doesn’t feel right, there is something missing. I also think that “pain” is a matter of perception for the individual too.

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    That is a great quote Rafael, Lance Armstrong certainly knows this topic inside and out. I also checked out your blog mate, great stuff!

  • http://angieandjpnicholas33.blogspot.com/ angie

    this is a great post Adam. I have not been feeling well this week and have been trying to eat as healthy as possible. This post reminds me what it is that I am working for. Not only to be fit and healthy for me but also for my son. I want to learn and use healthy habits so I can pass them onto him as he gets older. I don’t want him to see that his mother is fat and lazy. thanks for this and for letting me be apart of it your a wonderful and inspiring person.

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Right on Ron, that is a very fair trade mate! You summed it well man.

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Thank you Lynda, have a great day!

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Spot on Suzette, our daily self-talk if massive importance.

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Hi Thomas, mate that is an awesome saying, and it sums it up perfectly! Thanks man!

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    G’day Mike, I’m sure you what pain is man (especially when you are using the Quad Blaster)!

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Hi Angie, sorry to hear you are not feeling well. I think it is a great PRW to do it for your son, ingraining positive habits at a young age is awesome I think. Thank you for being a part of this community and contributing with your positive energy.
    Adam

  • http://fat2fitfirefighter.wordpress.com Jason

    That was a great post Adam! I think that focusing on the pain, and carrying it with you all day is one of best ways to avoid eating things you shouldn’t! Trying to forget the pain and push it out of your head allows you to forget about all the hard work, time, and effort you have devoted to yourself.

  • http://www.rtp-blog.com Adam Waters

    Jason, you are dead on mate. I actually made a video about that very topic once. Working out in the morning and carrying that “pain” with throughout the day is a great way to keep you on track with your nutrition plan.

  • http://coffeetalk-canwetalk.blogspot.com/ Debbie

    “I know which pain I would rather feel. I’ll take my pain in small doses every day and live the life of my dreams because that pain is temporary while regret is forever.”

    Those words hit me hard. Regret is forever!! How scary is that? So true.